Let’s start with the Opera. That’s “Definitely Not The Opera” where I had the pleasure of being a guest of host, Sook-Yin Lee,  where we focused on “What did you “work out” at the gym?” You can check it out on their website. You can download it as a podcast or in a fancy “chaptered” version from iTunes.
You may find the whole show is interesting. My piece starts at 6 minutes in and runs to about 14 minutes.

You may have heard that the phrase “Did you see Oprah yesterday?” will be obsolete by the end of this week. I have been watching some of the finale shows lately and I was particularly intrigued by Oprah’s interview with James Frey, the author of A Million Little Pieces. They spoke about the controversy surrounding his previous visits (relating to how part of his non-fiction book was fictionalized). Oprah, in an atypical moment of contrition, apologized to Frey for her lack of compassion in how she had treated him. She spoke about how her ego had gotten in the way.

I believe I was particularly moved by their mutual apologies and forgiveness because of what has been in they way of my fully appreciating Oprah for most of her 25 years. In about 1991, my dad was on Oprah. Consistent with her earlier, more tabloid days, the show was about a woman who had hired a hit-man to kill her son-in-law. My dad had recently published a book, “Our Wish to Kill” and they brought him on as an expert. It felt like a set up. They had carefully made sure what his fundamental point was and as soon as he said what they had planned for him to say on the show, Oprah said, “I don’t think so” and treated him what with what I would also call a lack of compassion.

Over the years, when people have told me that I should be on Oprah, or otherwise spoke about an appearance on the Oprah show as the ultimate exposure, I always had some reservations as I was upset with how I saw her treat my father. As I have seen her evolve, I have come to appreciate and enjoy her huge contributions more and more. I was inspired to tears many times during the recent shows, particularly in the update of her favorite story of all time, the success and education of Tererai Trent from Zibabwe. (Join me in getting the T-shirt supporting her work with Oprah and Save the Children to build a school.) Thank you Oprah for all of your great work and contributions, maybe I’ll visit you on OWN.

It is a lesson in forgiveness and a reminder that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting it to kill someone else. One of the greatest barriers to feeling exhilarated is the grudges and other garbage we carry from our past. The more we forgive, the lighter we become, and the more we are ready to be psyched for Monday.

 

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